How to Perform Marriage?
Just as Shri Goddess Durga married her three sons (Shri
Brahma, Shri Vishnu and Shri Shiv) off. We will read it further in
this very book. My (author’s) followers also do the same. There is
an “Asur Nikandan Ramaeni” of 17 minutes’ duration. It is recited
instead of performing the “feras”. It is superior to and more
beneficial than one crore Gayatri Mantras (Om bhurbhavH… ). It
has invocation and prayers of praise of all the gods-goddesses of
the world and the Complete God in it. Due to which, all the powers
always protect and help that wedding couple. A girl child is saved
forever by this. The path of life will become easier.
Renunciation of the currently prevalent customs in marriage: -
We will have to give up the futile extravagance in marriages.
Like, inviting a huge wedding procession (Barat) in a girl’s marriage,
to give dowry – is a useless tradition. As a result of which, people
have started considering a daughter to be a burden on the family,
and have started killing her in the womb itself. This becomes a cause
of heinous sin for the parents. A daughter is a figure of goddess.
Our malpractices have made a daughter our enemy. There is an
evidence in Shri Devipuran, Third Skand that in the beginning of
this Brahmand, when Mother Shri Durga married the three gods
(Shri Brahma, Shri Vishnu and Shri Shiv) off, at that time neither
was there any (barati) wedding guest from the bridegroom’s side,
nor any (bhaati) guest from the bride’s side. Neither was any
provision of food, nor was any D.J. played, nor was any dance
performed. Shri Durga said to her eldest son, Shri Brahma, that – O
Brahma! I give you this girl named Savitri as your wife. Take her
and start your family with her. Similarly, giving Lakshmi to her middle
son Shri Vishnu, and Parvati to her youngest son Shri Shiv, Sri Durga
said that – “These are your wives. Take them and start your family.
The three of them took their respective wives to their respective
loks (places). The rest of the world extended from them.
Doubt resolution: - Some people say that Parvati ji had died.
That goddess was reborn in King Daksh’s home. On becoming young,
Goddess Sati (Parvati) after speaking to Narad made a firm resolution to marry Shri Shiv, and expressed her desire to her father
Daksh via her mother. King Daksh said, “That Shiv is not worthy of
becoming my son-in-law because he remains naked. He only wears
a deerskin on his private parts. He covers his body with ash and
remains intoxicated under the effect of cannabis. He keeps snakes
with him. Marrying my daughter off to such a person, I will not
become a subject of ridicule in the society. But Goddess Parvati
was very stubborn. She conveyed her wish to Shri Shiv and said
that I want to marry you. King Daksh had fixed Parvati’s marriage
with someone else. On the same day, Shri Shiv reached at the
marriage pavilion along with thousands of ghosts and spirits, Bhairavs
and his attendants. King Daksh’s soldiers opposed them. A battle
took place between the armies of Shiv and Daksh. Parvati put the
wedding garland around Shiv’s neck. Shri Shiv forcefully took
Parvati and brought her to his home at Kailash Mountain. Some
people say that – “See, Shri Shiv ji had also taken a grand wedding
procession to marry Parvati. Therefore, the custom of wedding
procession is ancient. Therefore, there is no charm in a wedding
without a procession.” Its answer is that this was not a marriage; it
was a love affair. Shri Shiv ji had not brought a wedding procession;
he had brought an army to forcefully take Parvati with him. The
ancient tradition of marriage is in Shri Devi Mahapuran’s Third
Skand that has been mentioned above. Sons and daughters should
marry according to their parents’ wishes. A love marriage becomes
a cause of great distress. Like, God Shiv and Parvati had a tiff on
some matter. Shiv ji stopped treating Parvati as his wife and even
stopped talking to her. Parvati thought that – “Now this house has
become hell for me. Therefore, let me go to my mother for a few
days.” Parvati came to her father Daksh’s house. That day King
Daksh had organised a Hawan Yagya (Sacrificial Ceremony). King
Daksh did not welcome her daughter and said that – “What have
you come for here today? Now you know how much he loves you?
Go from here.” Parvati had told her mother about Shiv being angry
with her. Her mother had told her husband Daksh. Now, neither
Parvati had any place in her parent’s house, nor at her in-laws. The
love marriage had created such grave circumstances that Daksh Daughter did not see any other option than committing suicide. She
jumped into the massive fire pit of King Daksh, and ruined the
religious ritual. She lost her precious human life. She also destroyed
her father because when Shiv came to know about it, he reached
there with his army, and beheaded his father-in-law, Daksh. Later,
he attached the head of a billy goat on Daksh’s body and restored
him to life. That love marriage wreaked such havoc. Addressing the
Shiv army as a wedding procession, a malpractice has been given
birth, and this story is the originator of the malpractice of love
marriage, which is the cause of the destruction of the society.
Those people, who got married in an appropriate manner, are
till date living a happy life; for example, Shri Brahma and Shri Vishnu.
The aim of Marriage: - The aim of marriage is only to reproduce
children. Then both husband and wife work hard to rear the children.
They marry them off. Then those children start their families. Apart
from this, a love marriage is like sowing a seed of unrest in the
society. It is a spark to spoil the society.
